By Floyd Godfrey, LPC, CSAT candidate
Many of my clients over the years who are struggling with sexual addiction, have described more difficult temptation when they are on the road. Sometimes their employment requires travel or extensive time away from home. Even short trips away can magnify the urges. There can be a sense of anonymity with travel that is unhealthy. When people you do not know surround you, it’s easy to mentally retreat into a world of fantasy. Being alone and isolated in a hotel room can be very threatening for anyone who suffers with addiction.
A Travel Kit is very similar to what I’ve discussed previously as a First Aid Kit. However, the Travel Kit is something specific for trips. Find a box or container and simply place items within the container that both remind you of recovery and provide tools to keep you away from your bottom lines.
You could include items in your Travel Kit that help your hotel room to feel like home – pictures of your family to put on the nightstand, photos of your support friends to put on the television, special audio recordings or CDs, a pillowcase from your own bed, or your own Bible to place on your nightstand. Bring anything that helps make a hotel room feel like home.
Boredom can also be a serious problem for traveling, so I suggest that your travel kit include a list of things to do. Take time before you go to research local activities or tourism ideas. Get online and find support groups that you might attend. Bring some stationary to plan letters or cards home. Think ahead about how to fill any down time you might run into.
The television can sometimes be a problem for traveling, so ask for a room without a television, or to have the television removed. You might also call the hotel before you arrive and ask for the adult programming to be blocked in your room. When the hotel is unwilling to do any of these things, you can unplug it when you arrive and turn it against the wall. Bring a sign to hang on the television that reads something like: “I have better things to do.”
Don’t try to tough it out when you’re traveling. Take some time to prepare by creating a travel kit and you’ll find the experience less troubling. Be prepared. Additionally, share with someone in your support network what you have done for your Travel Kit. They may have some helpful ideas.
Call us if you’d like a free 15-minute consultation with a counselor. We provide counseling programs for sexual addiction in Mesa Arizona. (480) 668-8301.