By Claire Atenian
Intern Psychotherapist, Fuller Theological Seminary
With the massive popularity of social media, it can be rough to develop confidence as a teenage girl in Mesa Arizona. Have you ever posted a status, a picture, or a “tweet” and been disappointed by the number of “likes” or “favorites” you’ve received? The growing pressure to preform on social media is taking a toll on our ability as teenage girls, and as a culture, to connect authentically to one another.
This pressure is heavier for teenagers. According to Pew-Research Internet Project, teenagers make up 87% of all Twitter users. Because of the intense pressure to preform well on social media, it is common for teens to project an unrealistic version of themselves. According to a survey published by the Girl Scouts Research Institute, girls with low self-esteem were more likely to claim that the image they portray on social networks is sexy and/or crazy than girls with high self-esteem. Social network sites provide a false sense of connection because they allow the users to hide behind the screen.
The promise of connection on social media is short-lived, and often leaves teenage girls wanting more. Authentic connection is rooted in face-to-face interaction, which can be really scary if you’re more used to connecting on the web. This might be even more difficult if you have hidden problems or struggles that you don’t want anyone to know about.
We understand this fear, and developed a group called Girlwise. It is a counseling group for developing confidence in teenage girls in Mesa AZ. We find this typically comes with authentic connection among peers who are supportive and understanding. Self-esteem and self-worth increase as a result of these connections. Instead of the disappointment that comes from social media interactions, these encounters foster openness and friendship that is not available online. In-person relationships fuel intimacy and closeness that lead to higher levels of self-esteem.
We challenge you to break out of the trap of social media and start living a more connected life! Developing confidence in teenage girls is something we’re good at! Check out our website or call us for a free 15-minute consultation about “Girlwise” counseling group in Mesa AZ: (480) 668-8301.