By Floyd Godfrey, LPC, CSAT candidate
When you are struggling with pornography or other sexual addiction behaviors, it’s common to have the fantasies repeating inside your mind. Sometimes they will put you into a trance-like state. The fast-forward technique helps to break this preoccupation trance. It works because the addiction fantasies rarely involve real-life consequences. In reality there are always consequences to acting out.
When you feel like fantasizing and begin preoccupation about sexual things, start by slowing everything down. Take a moment to catch your breath and think. Pause and imagine the consequences of acting out. If you pursue the fantasy, what would be the real-life consequence? Take time to ponder these images and consider the emotions you will be experiencing. What would you be feeling? How would your family respond? What would your wife say? How will your sponsor react? What will be required for you to rebuild trust?
It’s important to think of any possible bad outcomes and to allow yourself a sense of the worst-case scenarios. Let yourself feel the despair and the pain of the consequences. Don’t avoid the discomfort. Let yourself feel it. What could this do to your family? How would your children feel if they found out? Could it escalate and then you lose your job? Could it escalate and you lose your church affiliation?
This fast-forward technique often diminishes the chemical rush and allows you to break the trance. You can then think more clearly about your choices. It leaves you with a bigger picture. The truth about your reality will be staring you in the face.
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