By Floyd Godfrey, LPC, CSAT candidate
We are honored to be a part of your recovery program and recognize your commitment and courage as you move forward in your recovery process. Remember that YOU are responsible for your own recovery work. The program works only if you do. However, please contact me if you get stuck or frustrated about any aspect of the program. As the director of the program I want to make sure I can assist you.
Here are a few thoughts that will help improve your recovery results as you attend the second phase of LifeSTAR:
· Be sure to look over the commitments for phase two. You will notice differences with such things as payment procedures.
· Make sure you receive a “task” list from the group therapist so that you know what goals you ought to be working on. These tasks correlate with the Carnes Task-Model. Your progress is your own responsibility, not the therapists’. You can also find copies of the task list on the webpage.
· Make sure you have a Plan of Action that you are working. This should include doing your dailies. We have included a blank version of both, should you need a fresh copy. You can also download this on our website.
· Phase Two groups become more personal in nature. Challenge yourself to open up and share on a personal level. The group will be more helpful for you if you learn authenticity. Be honest with your feelings.
· Phase Two groups are hard work. You will need to return each week having practiced the tools and changed some behaviors. If you don’t start using tools on a regular basis, you won’t be successful. Be prepared to implement concepts you’ve learned. When individuals drop out of phase two, it’s often because they don’t want to work.
· Be prepared each group meeting to share what you’ve accomplished during the week.
· Remember that phase two is not a drop in program. If an event will prevent you from attending a group session, let your therapist now.
· Don’t compare your progress (or lack of progress) to that of others in the group. Everyone is on their own timeline. Speed is not the objective, but rather consistency in using the tools and integrating the concepts. Phase Two is a skill development phase that sometimes takes time. Likewise, if other group members are slow in their progress, don’t allow that to hinder your work. You can progress whether others do or not.
· Take responsibility for your own work in the workbooks. Recovery is an individual process that requires total honesty and consistency. Some partners choose to share their progress with each other. However, it’s critical that you don’t read your partner’s workbook. · Ask questions. Our goal is to educate you in an atmosphere of confidentiality, education, and challenge. Your questions are important to us and will help clarify important recovery concepts for yourself and other participants.
· Challenge yourself to participate in all the group activities as they are presented by the group therapist. Please do not bring babies to group, as this can be distracting for you and other participants.
· You will need to continue with counseling while attending Phase Two. Sometimes group time is limited and you will not get everything you need individually from group work. If you don’t have a primary therapist then make sure to choose one. Most participants visit with their primary therapist throughout the month.
· If you are working with a religious leader as part of your recovery program, we encourage you to continue having regular meetings. Additionally, our counselors are available to educate your religious leader about the program and how they can better assist you in your recovery efforts. Don’t hesitate to ask your religious leader to call and talk to your group leader or primary therapist.
· We encourage participants to make 12-step meetings part of their recovery program. 12-step meetings are free, peer-directed, and available seven days a week. A list of meetings was distributed during Phase One.
· We encourage participants to read other recovery books. You can ask your therapist, group leader, or search the index of your workbooks for lists of good recovery reading.
Congratulations on moving into Phase Two! I am confident you will find peace, as you practice and gain the skills of the program. Remember, the program only works if you work the program. I look forward to watching your success! If there is anything I can help you with personally, please call me. If you need additional support with sexual addiction counseling services in Mesa Arizona then give us a call: (480) 668-8301.